All Beliefs are Welcome Here!
Wow, just a few days ago, I posted that I hated being single. But now I've completely turned around.
Just recently, my friend started dating a woman he met on match.com, and at first I felt like the ugly duckling: all my peers had a girlfriend or a date except me. I felt like a loser, honestly. But then I meditated on the subject and realized something.
I watched my friend come home from his first date and he said, "Yeah. Dude, seriously, I think she's the one."
At that very moment, it hit me: there is no "one". At least, I don't believe there is.
My past relationships have been "the one," and I ended up perplexed as to how they wound up not being the "one."
My own past relationships took up all my free time. I'm a very creative person (though the quality of my creativity may be questionable), and I need my creative outlet. I need wiggle room. But with worrying about a "significant" other and trying to live up to social standards, I wasted all my time I could have been using for myself. I worried so much about how others would perceive me with this significant other, how the significant other would perceive me, that I stopped being myself and started viewing me outside looking in and self-conscious about everything I did.
But single, I don't give a flying fuck at a rolling doughnut. I'm just myself. And it's like a burden is lifted from my shoulder when I make that transition from being in a relationship to being single. It's like: boom. I'm me.
I don't know. I just woke up after three hours of sleep and my mind isn't working at optimal efficiency quite yet. I'm not exactly sure if what I said sounded stupid or wise or what.
I would have thought not, in this very thread I posted that; but I've recently meet some individuals through my work that i can fairly say should be single and probably will be for life.
They are called monks, priests nuns if their religion requires celibacy and they honor that vow sincerely