Fake It 'til You Make It: A Logical Approach to Fantasy and Faith

The three "F"s of my title and sub-title…

Dictionary definitions: 

  • Faith – 1. Complete trust or confidence in someone or something 2. Strong belief in a god or in the doctrines of religion, based on spiritual apprehension rather than proof.
  • Fantasy – 1. The faculty or activity of imagining things, especially things that are impossible or improbable. a) a fanciful mental image, typically one on which a person dwells at length or repeatedly and which reflects their conscious or unconscious wishes. b) an idea with no basis in reality.
  • Fake – 1. (adj) Not true, real or genuine. 2. (noun) One that is not what it purports to be. 3. (transitive verb) to alter, manipulate, or treat so as to give a spuriously genuine appearance too. 4. (intransitive verb) to engage in faking something: Pretend

Putting it all together – Wikipedia:

  • “’Fake it till you make it’ (frequently 'til you make it or until you make it) is an English aphorism which suggests that by imitating confidence, competence, and an optimistic mindset, a person can realize those qualities in their real life.”

I like to start things out with the official or common definitions so that my foundation is known. It also makes me feel like my education hasn’t gone to waste. But these definitions don’t answer the question of “Why?” Why fake your faith? Why live in a fantasy? And the only real answer I can give is “why not?”

Life is incredibly boring. Or at least my life is. I am a mother of one little boy, going on two, teaching middle school math. I am a pagan, a hard polytheist and animist to be specific. This is real faith, I honestly believe that there are gods, and they are real. What I have a problem believing is their interest in me…

I greatly envy those who have had actual experiences that work to solidify their faith and those who are confident in their intuition or are able to feel the spirits or magic around them. Every few years or months I ache for spirituality in my life, but eventually, I also end up suffering a crisis of faith. Again, not in the existence of the spirits, or energy but in their interest and interaction with me. My most recent one hit me pretty hard, my husband lost his job and I didn’t get a job I truly believed I would. It didn’t help that I had some readings that pointed in the direction that neither of those things would happen and turns out they both did. 

But I want to believe. I want to believe in magic and spirits and divination and such. I want to live a life where I can do little things like simple spells or prayers and they actually help. So, rather than lament the unlikeliness of these wishes I have decided to “fake it ‘til I make it.” I will learn and practice divination and magic, I will set up altars and pray to the spirits/kami and I will basically live the life I WANT to be true and not worry about whether or not it is real or pretend. 

That is a simple and shallow answer to the potentially deep and complicated question of “why?” but eventually I will try and answer the “how” and dig a bit deeper into the “why?”

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Comment by Meridian - The Idaean on November 22, 2018 at 11:27am

It would appear your approach is all wrong, you sound like someone who has never been loved. Our path is made up of many connections we discover over time, and if we're a solitary this can be very lonely and a slow way of doing this. It took me thirty years to find my deities, but I always believed that they were there guiding me inexorably to them. 

Your spirituality may not be the right one for you, to 'fake it until you make it' is up there with -

Rowing harder doesn’t help if the boat is headed in the wrong direction. – Kenichi Ohmae.

You need to stop and reconsider your faith. Something is telling you, your on the wrong path?

Comment by Enigma on November 22, 2018 at 1:21pm

I like this blog post. It really seems heart felt.

The question that has always caused me to ponder is: Why some people always come out of a bad situation standing on their feet? It looks like their time has run out, or their world is collapsing, but then they end up in good circumstances after the storm. Is it their faith? Or is something deeper at work? Fate? Some predestination? Spirits who guide and protect? I don't know. And they don't have to be what many consider good people. Something always has their back.

Comment by Dave Pellani on November 29, 2018 at 5:58pm

"Something always has their back."

A very wise and astute observation.

It tells you never to fear the reaper. But first you must become aware of all possibilities.

A paradigm shift is necessary, and it nullifies all preconceived notions of what faith is, and what is good, and what is not good, because what is good is only good for you!

Comment by Shawn Cameron on January 7, 2019 at 8:08am

In the end I came to this conclusion, or perhaps more accurately "I have decided to conduct this personal experiment" because I want to DO something in addition to research and meditation and hunting for the "right" path. And I want to actually try and be happy. Rather than just hoping to one day suddenly start being "happy" I think it takes real effort for most people most of the time.

In the end I can, and have, spend years debating with myself what is true, what is delution, what is wishful thinking, and what is faith, and I'm tired. I still care about the truth but I have also finally given into the fact that I may never be able to know for sure what it is until the day I die and see for sure (and possibly not even then.) And so, rather than wait until I'm"sure" I have decided to jump in and start trying to see what happens. Perhaps I am mearly shouting into the void and hoping for an answer, but I won't know until I try.

Comment by Enigma on January 7, 2019 at 8:19am

You are unique and have your own truth and path.

Comment by Meridian - The Idaean on January 7, 2019 at 9:08am

I agree with Enigma.

Comment by Shawn Cameron on July 21, 2019 at 1:22am

Thank you for the comments everyone. I know I disappeared for quite a while but I'm back and hopefully will have much more positive posts in future. 


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