Listen up. If you are having trouble finding a relationship, typically it is because of you, not the internet, the men and women of today, loss of traditional values, etc. It is probably you. I know it sucks to hear this, but that's ok, once you realize this, you can improve yourself.
To men saying it is women's fault because they don't know a real man. Yea, they do. Tell me, is your idea of manhood being nice to women because they are women and you might potentially be attracted to them, or because they are people and you should be nice to anyone who has not yet treated you with disrespect? Are you holding the door for everyone or just women? Why? Trust me. When I looked like a girl, I walked among them trying to pass as them. They can tell. Most of them dont like the idea of getting treated special just because they are the "weaker" sex. They are not "impressed" if you get into a fight on their behalf when they aren't in physical danger. That is stupid. You need to let them be their own person without jealousy. Manhood isn't hinged on how manly you are, it is hinged on how you feel inside. Being confident in masculinity without having to be a mean person because of that is super sexy. Trust me, I was pretending to be one of them long enough to know. This isn't even getting into the real... Can't really describe them without cussing, "men" who treat people with disrespect and make others feel unsafe around them. They are hopeless, so I'm just dealing with the well meaning men out there.
straight Women. Again, I was raised among you, I had to take my way through girl talk without feeling like I belong. It sucked, but I got a good idea of common issues from a male perspective. Here is where many of you go wrong. There is no other half. You are compatible with many people, and any relationship takes tons and tons of emotional work from all parties. You can't just expect a guy to come in and save you. Nobody can do it. Before you can be ready for a relationship, you have to learn to be happy and content single. That way when you get in a relationship you can be your own person. Your identity doesn't have to revolve around a guy. You should be you for you. Not anyone else. You are perfect the way you are. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. No other person can complete or fix you. You have to do that for yourself. Also, old fashioned values treated you terribly. Trust me. Did you know that knights used to do terrible terrible things to women in particular? They were thugs. Chivalry was created just so that knights could demonstrate that they won't rape or murder women. See? I pulled a chair out. I won't kill or hurt you, right? Yeah. That's how it started and why it should die. It's a relic of that time and should be replaced with being nice to people because they are other human beings first and foremost. Nobody ever should get special treatment because of gender. Men are benefiting from it the most, yes, I know that well, but that also means chivalry had to go as well, so everyone is benefited from true kindness, and not from outdated promises of not hurting you. We shouldn't need that. It is ok to be strong, it is ok to be self sufficient, nobody owns you but yourself, you have a voice, and nobody, no matter who they are, is better than anyone else from anything but their actions they take in life. This world sucks, but we need to change it for the better, one step at a time, and we are all capable of doing that.
If anyone wonders why I think I know this. It's because I'm polyarmous. When you have multiple, honest, open relationships at one time, you have to learn to be an adult, take responsibility for your emotions and accept that you are the only ones responsible for them. This is what I found that has worked for me, and I hope it helps other people as well.