Same here. Instead of letting that person go, I tend to let them drag me back until I can't hold on any more and have to say " good bye" while wrenching away from their strangle hold, only to find myself relieved to be free and wondering why I didn't do it sooner.
oh these are all to true statments arnt they and we all do them in
one form or another l know that l did !
not any more l now do what l want to do for myself
l will not hurt nor harm any one n the procese
Change can be really scary. I think it's the not knowing that gets to me. It's like jumping off a diving board for the first time, feeling that adrenaline rush through you, then coming up out of the water and taking a deep breath. That feeling of exhilaration, the wondering what took you so long and what you were afraid of, and of course the anticipation of doing it again.