I do not understand my eldest daughter...She calls her dad who is only her stepdad, all the time...She does'nt call me, or she she answers and says she will call me back, she never does...I text her she does'nt respond...I do not understand what in the hell I did to her this time...Before I go any further, She Is A Christian...I have not been the best Mom, in fact, every mistake you can make, I made with her...I am really getting tired of walking on eggshells...It seems as though she only wants something to do with me when I am doing what she thinks I should be doing...I just needed to vent...
This is exactly what i do... all the time! My kids are younger but my daughter is getting to that tween stage, and one day its oh mom i love you lets cuddle, and the next its you were my "incubator". I am by far not the best mom out there, my depression has head to her being very wary of my "moods" i know tho, that in time may be about 10 yrs or so, things will even out. My own mom and me had a hard relationship untill i was in my early 20's, she did a lot of bad crap to me due to her alcholaism, (when she peed on me i was sure id hate her for ever, it was on my 13th bday, in front of all my friends at a slumber party.... i ended up getting new friends after that ;P ) but things settled down, she never did get help, but we managed to forgive each other and now, things are at a peacul point. time, time and more time, thats what it takes.
#2 works very well, used it often when my daughter was mutating I mean growning up. Last time was....well lets see...she's 29...and it's 9:23.....about...I'll let you know.
I don't do it every night like I did when she was 15, that was a bad year.....my head exploded alot that year...wanna see my scar? lol
I understand what you're saying and I can understand the pain it causes you. We all make mistakes and most are given the chance to make them over and over. When others change their ways or try to make up for wrongs they honestly feel they committed, there will always be those who won't let them forget. It's their way of punishing when they have no other way. If you are pagan and your daughter is Christian, and especially if she is a teen, which is sounds like she is, the church is catering to whatever wrongs she has endured. They are probably saying it's because you are pagan and that until you are Christian, she shouldn't deal with you at all. They do that, I know that for a fact. So her anger with you is being fed by a religious belief that Christians are good, deserving people and others, pagans, gentiles are evil and deserve to be ignored at the least and shunned. It isn't right, there's no good that can come from it, but it is the churches attempt at converting you to their way of thinking. It is using your child against you, it is using your love for your daughter to make you want her's in return so bad, you will do anything including changing your spiritual belief to what they want you to believe.
I can't say that it will change unless your daughter learns to think for herself and forgive you for anything that may have happened in the past. She is following the path of others instead of her own. But her path will always be there to follow when she's ready.
For now, it is a tough pill to swallow. Just be true to yourself.
Maybe she just feels more comfortable going to her step father. I know from personal experience, that when I have to go to either of my parents, I go to my dad. I know my mother doesn't like it and it is really nothing personal, he is just easier to talk to. I am sure you have done nothing wrong and maybe talking with her about it would clear it up. Being a mother is not easy. It is even more difficult when you are dealing with daughters. I know, I have 3 and I am one..:P..