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Dont be embarrassed! I too had some issue with this. My solution was I got dreadlocks. But I do believe that the whole process of having dreads has helped my hair thickness. Stress causes hair to fall out. I used to stress ALOT over my hair! Dreads prevent that because they're dreadlocks! Nothing I can do now..they have minds of their own! ;) chemicals and over washing cause hair to thin and be dull/flat. I only use my own handmade soap (4 all natural ingredients) and I wash once every 2 weeks. And nope, they dont stink! Im not saying get dreads. But maybe work on your stress (babies cause lots of that!) Try grounding /centering daily. 5 or 10 minutes JUST FOR YOU girl. A glass of wine..a bath ritual. A hit or 2 of cannabis. Try stretching times between washes (assuming you wash daily) you will be oily for a few weeks but I swear it evens out. And im not saying go 2 weeks like me, but maybe once a week with a natural shampoo and once a week with ACV and baking soda (water them down!) Go easy on heat and styling. You can also make yourself a hair dressing of coconut and jojoba oil and aloe. Add ginseng, rosemary or even stinging nettle (a weed in your yard! Stops stinging after plucked so wear gloves at first) and massage into your scalp and leave on as long as you can. I hope the best for you my friend! Thin hair blows. Mine was literally the circumference of a penny when pulled in a ponytail. Now its as thick as my wrist! But thats all dread. Anyway..hope this helps. :)
Also I have been in contact with some lovely folks on etsy... perhaps they will be able to help with a natural hair tonic of sorts that will help with that sitaution